If this is your first visit to A WIFE AND A WITNESS-Welcome!
Typically in this spot you would find a Bible verse that would hopefully give you some kind of insight into God's desire for marriage between husband and wite, Today I am sharing I John 4: 7-8
Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God; and everyone who loves is born of God and knows God. 8 The one who does not love does not know God, for God is love.
A WIFE AND A WITNESS is a book that I wrote about our marriage.
The Subtitle of the book is "Loving your Spouse to the Lord". After marketing this book for over 12 years now to wives of those who are unsaved, we're changing the marketing theme to "Doing marriage God's way!"
This week I had the opportunity to share about the book to a young woman that I met while we both worked in a local library. When she quit at the beginning of the year to work in an internship in her field as a senior in marketing, she asked me if she could interview me for her class when they studied publishing. I said "Yes!" So, I received the email Friday, answered her questions as best I could. I thought, "What a witness to those who will see this in her class!"
I thought I'd share a couple answers here. I hope you enjpy as I remember back 24 years ago at the conception of A Wife and A Witness.
1.)Tell me a little about yourself – What have you written so far in your writing career? Aside from writing, tell me what else you do – work, church, etc.
"The name of my published work is “A Wife and A Witness.” I wrote it at the age of 38, put away for 10 years after receiving numerous rejections from publishing companies within the genre of interest in the book. When I had a life-changing event at the age of 48, the compulsion to get the book published took over and I soon had a publisher and finished the up-date and clean-up of the book under contract. This is my only work so far. I plan to add two more books, before I die, A Mom and A Mentor and Move Off This Mountain. I am 61 years old and am married for 41 years. We have three children and eight grandchildren. My husband currently has stage four, nodular melanoma. We are active in our church, two churches actually. I have worked the past 3 years at the Weston library. We like to travel and spend time with our family."
2.)What sparked your interest in wanting to write and subsequentially publish a book?
"I guess the main interest in writing the book that I did, was the knowledge that there was not a book available on the market, that was encouraging to women and that was Biblically correct in its portrayal of what a Christian Marriage should be. (Especially, if only if one of the partners was a Christian, then what should it look like?) I was sitting in church one Sunday when a woman was speaking on her husband becoming saved after 30 years of marriage. She had been a Christian for 24 of them. She made the statement, “No one knows what it is like to pray for something for so long and finally have it happen.” Looking around the church that day I realized that there were a lot of women in the congregation that could relate to that. After having been through that in the early years of our marriage, I felt like I could “write a book” about it. In the early days of our marriage, I was a Christian and my husband was not. I looked for books on the subject. There were two and they were both very hostile and judgmental toward the wife for even being in that situation. I had journaled and read my Bible, taken notes, listened at different Bible Studies and literally had enough notes on hand to write that book. I started that very afternoon."
Were you passionate about a subject, wanted to share your thoughts, etc.?
"Encouraging other women in their marriages, especially Christian marriages became OUR passion. So much of our book shares stories and anecdotes of the early years of our marriage that I needed to have my husband’s backing in this. Right away we had to determine how much of the “down and dirty” could I share? With his permission, there is not a part of the book that is not a compilation of both of our struggles and thoughts, although I authored it, it is our hope that if it helps one couple succeed, it is worth sharing our story."
3.) Tell me about your writing process. How long did it take to get to a finished product?
"It took me six months initially to write the book. The research and resources that I used were my Bible and notes and journals from Bible studies I had either taught, sat in, written or experienced in the past. The biggest part was making an outline of what I wanted to say and then just finding the notes or journals to go with the particular scripture each chapter focuses on. After the several rejection letters, after the “finished product” we literally copied the manuscript to a floppy disk and threw it in a drawer, for ten years.
In 2008, when I decided to get the book published, the first issue that we had was technology. We had to find a program that could take the material from a floppy to the current technology computer program which now was thumb drives and Cd rom. Once my husband was able to open the floppy and load the info onto the computer, we started going through the manuscript and added the last ten years of living to it wherever it was applicable. Some of these experiences became significant in telling the story with greater meaning than before. It was in those last ten years that we suffered some of our deepest struggles and trials.
I started by outlining the things that I felt that God had shown us to do in our marriage. I then just sat down and the words flowed out from my heart onto the paper. I found myself, often, turning to a certain study or time in a journal and re-reading it, feeling whatever I was going through at the time all over again. Sometimes with a feeling of great gratitude now, from seeing it from the living through the experience side!"
I hope this interview gives you great insight into the heart of this book.
A WIFE AND A WITNESS is a book about how you can better your walk, especially within your marriage, to seek God out in all the areas you need to improve. God calls all of us to be witnesses of His love and grace!
I invite you to check out our video at the bottom of the page! Share your witness!
Because she fell in love, Joy Bowser chose to marry a man who was not a Christian, and in the uplifting A Wife and a Witness, she provides insight for other Christian wives who face the same challenge. A Wife and a Witness is the story of one couple's struggle to follow Christ together. Join Christian author Joy Bowser as she fearlessly shares her marital experiences in order that readers might be encouraged and inspired by her candid vulnerability. Whether you are a Christian whose husband isn't a believer, or a wife desiring to improve your relationship with your spouse this book is for you! A Wife and a Witness outlines specific Biblical concepts to help build a stronger marriage especially if your spouse is not saved, and profound insight into what is necessary to keep your trust in the Lord, allowing him to work in your day-to-day life and in your home.
https://youtu.be/RuK5qcoI8qA Podcast Regarding A WIFE AND A WITNESS
https://www.blogtalkradio.com/by-the-fireplace/2018/03/31/joy-bowser-author-of-a-wife-and-a-witness-will-join-us-live Podcast Re: A Wife and A Witness
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Though you may never have been through what Joy went through, you can easily adopt the concepts she presents. Joy offers Biblical principles to help your marriage…” L. Purpura, Bryan ,OH
March 31, 2016 These are the words(wow, oh my, yes and Amen) that came to mind when I started reading A Wife and A Witness. This book is not for the faint of heart, it will cause you to pause and think about if you are treating your spouse the way they should be treated according to God's word. Joy is trying to keep women from falling into the pitfalls that most women seem to succumb to when one spouse is saved and the other is not. But, I also think this book is beneficial to the wife who has a saved spouse. Even if our spouses are saved there are traps and pitfalls that we succumb to that are listed in this book. I'm enthusiastic about marriage, so I was excited to read this book. Anytime someone writes about how to heal, restore, reconcile or how to avoid the baits that Satan will place in your path to destroy to marriages, I'm ecstatic to read and share with someone else. Get a copy of this book, don't sit on the sideline and watch your marriage wither away. Get in the fight, put on the whole armour of God and let Satan know he's a liar. A Wife and A Witness is a 10 star book, but the highest I can give is 5.
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